Bro's before Hoes? Part one

Grrrr yesterday was a bit rough.
I went out with my good friend Cell guy who has always been there and I pretty much know he is really into me if not in love with me, but its weird because since I have known him either I have been involved (with S.) or he has as well. Besides that Cell guy has always been a great friend and so much fun. Sorry I am off on a tangent again, but on Wednesday night we went out to his friend Harpie (will explain later) who I like a lot but found some qualities a little disconcerting.
We went to her apartment drank some wine (my one true weakness) and began discussing our relationship troubles. My bitter diatribe recounted the situation with S. while Cell guy battled with the sex issues with his recent ex and lastly Harpie had a ten year relationship with a emotional abusive manipulative good looking liar. This is the moment I began to dub Harpie her name. This woman is gorgeous, nice, smart, but very bitter and obviously has a thing for Cell guy and in turn Cell guy was very attentive to her as well. They work together and get along very well. So I was a little bit of the third wheel but I was ok. I was a little weirded out to see that Cell guy acted like he liked her like he did with me when we hung out. Hmmm ok so that is why Cell guy has pretty girls as friends.
Honestly it was weird but I didn’t care that much and even said to Cell guy “You should go for it, she seems to be into you.” He was a little taken aback mentioning well what about wanting you, etc. I told him “I love you to death but I am not anywhere near that what’s so ever.” Not that Cell guy is in total “friend” zone (he is attractive) but we are good friends and unless we were in love or I just couldn’t control my attraction for him, I won’t wreck a three year friendship for me to screw him on the rebound.
So conversation of Cell guys ex came up and Harpie just went on a tirade about how they shouldn’t be with her, she’s a bitch, etc. Uhhhh hello I know the ex and she is a sweetheart amazing person except a cold fish in the sack. This does not make her the most horrible person in the world. She kept on it and looked to me more and more desperate for Cell guy. So as Harpie and I are outside smoking I started asking if she was into Cell guy. My premonition (which it was not hard to see) was correct and she really wanted to be with him. I politely said “you need to be careful with the bashing of the ex since they are so recently broken up….you don’t want Cell guy to be with you unless he is fully done with the ex. Resentment could build otherwise.” Then I brought up how I don’t understand how she hates her so much since she is so nice. We debated back and forth but when it comes down to it. WOMEN are horrible to each other if it is over a man. This is one aspect of being a woman I cannot stand. We will turn on each other as opposed to put the blame where it belongs nine times out of ten. We will forgive a cheating bastard and give the single woman the nickname skank whore. Do not get me wrong sometimes this is warranted but men do not exhibit this ridiculous reaction. They are logical and recognize where the anger should truly lie. I felt like Harpie how can you be so cold hearted when you pretended to be friends with the ex (whom I need to reiterate she is possibly one of the sweetest women I have ever met) but are trying to be a relationship breaker for your own gain? How about some comradery? Bro’s before hoes mentality would be nice within the vagina community. I bet a lot less women would put up with as much shit from a relationship and maybe, just maybe men would be forced to think about others feeling (yes I am a little bitter, but I do recognize there are women like this as well)
I think Harpie was a little annoyed at my honesty but I diverted the attention and got us back to laughing. At this point Hot Man (guy I met on Myspace) text me and I texted back and in a little bit of a drunken place called him. We had a 30 minute conversation and it was really nice. He seemed intelligent, funny….and the best trait he was almost in the same exact situation as I. Hmmm both emotionally bitter people just wanting some distraction. This could be perfect. He has either messaged me or talked to me since the say he messaged me so this could be a perfect rebound…..
The story gets more interesting but I will continue it later tonight.

Hmm Hot Marine boy...

OK...so I have just had this horrible long drawn out breakup with S. but surprisingly I am holding up quite well. No crying the last 3 days, still eating and going to the gym. Even the lame email he sent me about learning from me, he will miss me....all word vomit and lies, did not get me upset just more angry. I even got together the last few things I have to give back (via friends not in person) including his key to his apartment, hoodie and his childhood stuffed animal. (It was made mention that I should cut off and ear and send it back, hehehe!)
So last night I am hanging with MAC girl one of my good friends who was dumped recently and guy is calling and sleeping with her but not saying he wants to get back together thing. Oh hun we have all been there, especially with our first love/crush. She brought over these delicious eggplant wraps and pasta salad and we watched a movie.
Remember I said Myspace is the devil, well I still agree but it seems a perfect place for rebound boys and a little ego boost. See I have been on myspace for years (before it was so big) but I was alos always in a relationship so I never hunted on Myspace or became friends with random men.
Well now I am in a whole new world of Single MYSPACE. I got alot of emails and friend requests. So this makes me feel good but most are not anyone I would talk to (hmm creepy 50 year old pedophile) but there were a couple and one guy in particular. We will call him HOT MARINE man. Holy shit this guy is goodlooking. He seems like the perfect rebound. He is 31, was in the marines, is a personal trainer and works at the clothing store Hollister as a manager, and is applying to law school as we speak. On a physical level, he has a chiseled jaw and chest with big gorgeous blue eyes. Honeslty I usually fall for cute but rebound and lust (which is all I can deal with right now in my bitter stage) makes this guy a perfect canidate.
He emailed me a simple hi and I emailed back...well low and behold soon after I email him I get a respond and we ended up IMing for 20-30 minutes. Other great points...COMPLETE opposite of S. in the fact that he doesn't drink! Get this, he stopped drinking to concentrate on school. Holy shit a man who doesn't have a drinking problem and has self control. I admitted that I could give up most booze but not my red wine. I will have to examine this straight edge lifestyle to see what it is like. Just from the IM and picture exchange (I gave some good pics and not so good pics so he had a true depiction of me) he surprisingly gave me his number (Ok so he is either shy like he said he was or he is a complete slut).
Oh and on a side note…MAC girl was with me and acting like a little school girl like me as well. That is when we came up with HOT MAN (name) for him. Its funny how a little ego boost can brighten your day even for a few minutes. Luckily I am in that “I don’t give a shit if you ever call me or see me again because all men should die” mentality but a hot man can definitely bring a smile to your face. Let’s think about this….He is gorgeous, muscular, can get me discounts from a great clothing store, smart, and going to Law school. Hmmmm what else do I need in a lust relationship? Hopefully if we actually get together and start to hang out he won’t be awful in person or in bed. I will keep you updated but should get to some real work….